Posts tagged my story
Ending Toxic Relationships

When I was 18, I said goodbye to my father. There was no drama. No big blowout. Two sentences effectively closed the door on any relationship that I would ever have with him.

 "You know I love you."

"You have a funny way of showing it." 

And that was it. I closed that chapter of my life and walked away. This isn't to say that it was easy, or that I was not forever changed by those first 18 years. Far from it.

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I'm No Mother

Many women hear the call of motherhood early in life. They play babies, house, dress up like brides. And when their day comes to become a mother, they fall into it like they are falling into the warmest, fluffiest bed. They have a pregnancy "glow". They LOVE being pregnant. And when the babies come, it's like they were born to be mothers. Their patience is endless. They make smiley face pancakes every morning and watch their babies sleep at night. It is amazing to watch.

 I was never that woman.

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Roots

Hello again, world. That's right, it's me, and I'm back.  Funny how that works.

Let me start from the beginning. My name is Jessica Groff (formerly known as Hammerstein formerly known as Mueller). I am from all up and down the Bergen County line, but was originally born and raised in upstate NY (yes, near Albany).

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PPD + PTSD: My Story

In college, I read a story called The Yellow Wallpaper  by Charlotte Perkins Gilman.  In the story, a woman is taken to a hideaway by her husband and imprisoned there after the birth of their child. During her stay, she slowly goes insane, hearing voices and seeing faces behind the yellow wallpaper. This story is about much more than a woman and a decorating decision gone awry. This is a story about postpartum depression and the fears and stigma surrounding it, much of which still exist today.

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